Hello 2016, it’s me…

I hope everyone reading this has had more love, joy and unpredictability that 2015 could possibly offer. As this year draws to an end, it’s hard not to think about what 2015 brought. For some people you might hate to see it go because you can’t possibly think of another year that could top this one. For others, you might have helped 2015 pack its bags, dropped it off at the airport and never looked back in the rearview. Whatever your situation is, I hope 2016 leaves you humble and speechless. I hope you find so much love and give so much love that you look back at this time next year and thank God for 2016.

I usually think of things I want to accomplish come this time of year for the upcoming one. But this year, I got married, I bought a house, I’m in good health, all of my family is still living, I got a new job and started this wonderful messy blog. I can’t think of anything else that I need or want. So I thought about contentment. I thought about how scary that word is. How there’s so much gray to it. On one hand, you don’t want to be so content that you stop moving and shaking. On the other, you don’t want so much chaos that you wouldn’t know what contentment looked like if it was looking back at you in the mirror. So there’s an ultra fine line when it comes to being content. My version of content is to not fall into comparisons death trap. It can steal everything from you if you let it.

This year i will unfollow things that leave me wanting more. Things that leave me feeling a little less worthy of being happy. Trust me; you are so worthy of being happy. You are beautiful and wonderfully made. It is in our human nature (thanks to Adam and Eve) to want what we can’t have. It is so easy to get caught up in the idea if you have XYZ then you’ll be happy.

I want you to slow down. I want you to be content with what you have. That doesn’t mean to settle and not push yourself to be a better you. I don’t want you to compare your life to others. Unfollow people on social media if you have to. Work towards becoming the happiest you. With contentment comes letting go and that’s a hard concept for many people. I hope you leave all the things that were bad for you behind in 2015. I hope you let go of that relationship that makes you feel second best. I hope you let go of that dead end job that won’t ever promote you when you’re all too deserving. I hope you let go of that toxic friend that drains you. I hope you let go of feeling the need to look like a Victoria’s Secret model. Say yes to the ice cream.

This year, I hope to spend more time with God. I hope to be less impulsive when the world comes pressing down on me to have the latest and greatest thing. I hope you ask yourself before doing something, “how will this serve you, God?”

I started reading what the bible says about being content and this stood out:

“Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content.”- Philippians 4:11

 

“..in whatever situation I am to be content”…that is a hard one for me. I know I have had too many situations where the last thing i’ve felt is contentment. I hope this year I will learn to be content no matter the situation.

This year, I promise to fall flat on my face. I promise to make messes and clean them up. I promise not to let the world make me feel unworthy. I promise to realize we all fall short and it’s okay to not get it right. I promise to cut myself some slack and not be so hard on myself. I will show fear that love ALWAYS wins. I’ll show up for my family and friends. I’ll really see people for who they are, not who i expect them to be. I’ll chase after the life I want, no matter the cost. I’ll help others along their journey of 2016 because no matter who you are, we’re all just trying to make it. I hope you show 2016 what you are made of. You are cherished, loved and completely rad. I hope you promise all the above to yourself and so much more.

always in your corner,

B

 

 

5 Reasons to trade in a barstool for a bench press

I do occasionally have a drink with some friends but those 2 AM binges where the only words I know how to say are, “taco bell” and “bathroom?” are long gone. My friends, family can tell you that I am not the same girl I was at 20 and my needs/wants are constantly changing. At the gym the morning I was thinking how far I’ve come from that insecure, please everyone–type girl. Here are my personal top 5 reasons that a bench press is more suitable for me than a barstool:

1. The Morning After
This is the big one for me. I have yet to meet someone who has said, “those 10 shots I took last night made me feel so great this morning!!” There have been plenty of nights where I wanted to go out and once getting to the bar, it was not the experience I was hoping for. This morning I would have probably rather put my hand in my juicer than go to the gym. But, you know what? I didn’t regret going once I got there. Yeah, i’m sore but it’s not from throwing my guts up because I had too many grenades in NOLA, sore. It’s a change in my body getting stronger and better sore and I love every second of it. You wont regret going to the gym, but you might regret the kegger you sucked dry at the party you won’t remember last night.

2. Mood Swiiiinnnng
For me, there is a fine line between loving everyone I see at the bar and Mike Tyson coming through my body and wanting to punch the next person who spills their cute little martini on me. I can go from cute to ratchet faster than you can pour a drink. I don’t know about you but that is so unattractive to me. I don’t ever want to be in a state where I have no control over my emotions again. I used to leave work and be so stressed, I wanted a drink. Now, I leave work and go to the gym and 10 times out of 10, I am in a much better mood when I leave. The gym heals me mentally more than any amount of alcohol ever will.

3. Socializing
Most people go out to meet people or to spy on their ex boyfriends new girl. Some people go out so they can have someone to go home with a few hours later. Either way, in the long run, has either made you happy? I know some of the people i’ve met while bar hopping is not the type of people I want in my life consistently. At the gym, I am surrounded by people who support me. Whether they give me the encouragement I need or they just want to chat, I can promise you they aren’t there to watch me fail like half of the people who are your friends at the bar.

4. How Embarrassing

I have had multiple females tell me they don’t work out because they feel judged or embarrassed. Come to find out, those are the same females taking 4 Irish Breakfast shots and dancing with the pool stick like it’s a stripper pole. Being embarrassed and lazy aren’t the same thing. If one reason you aren’t actively in the gym is because of what other people think, I promise you, we’ve all been there. The people who look Victoria’s Secret perfect, had to start somewhere. Everyone has to start somewhere and NO ONE judges you for making yourself better. If they do, screw them and go head girl, get down in your cute spandex. You’re perfect.

5. Music
This one may be weird but it is so true. When I am at the gym or running, I can listen to whatever I want. Currently “Chainsaw,” is my go-to workout song. I also do not have to hear the dance version of the Wobble ever again! Or more importantly, 50 drunk people thinking they can actually do the Wobble.

This blog is different but it’s important to me because the older I get, the more I realize I don’t want to be 50 years old drinking margaritas at Chili’s until I don’t remember my name. I want to work hard and be in the best shape of my life. Alcohol gives you an instant buzz, you see results almost instantly even though most of the time, they aren’t the results you want. With the gym, it takes work and dedication and endless hours put into it. But, the results are so much more rewarding.

XO,

B

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I can’t believe it’s been a year since promised to become a better person…

my thoughts on new years/new you

Since this is my first “real” blog, I decided to talk about New Year’s. Everyone is thinking about resolutions. My take on them? Who cares? I made a list of the top 25 things I wanted to do this year and then I laughed. Why do I need a New Year to do these things? I should have been doing most of them all along. But i’ll share a few of the things on my list:
1) Stand up for myself and my beliefs more
–i should have been doing this a longgg time ago. you feel me? by stand up for myself, i don’t mean be a bitch to people, i mean, don’t let people run all over me. it’s because i’m a libra, i’m sure of it. i weigh things on my libra scale c o n s t a n t l y. i will give someone the shirt of my back and then freeze. that’s okay, in moderation. but there’s only so much one person can give before cutting someone off or actually cutting them. (not really)

2) Travel (this should have been number one)
–i don’t mean go to Europe every other month (even though that would be magical), i mean, go somewhere i haven’t been. even if it’s two towns over, there’s always something to be learned in a different atmosphere. i mean get out of my comfort zone, try new food or go to a new church so i can experience life and every aspect of it. i’m a firm believer that you’re not supposed to be around people who are just.like.you. HOW BORING. i want to meet people who believe the exact opposite of me to help me understand myself and beliefs on a whole other level.

3) Be a better puppy mom
–i know this is a weird one…my dog literally just threw up a bone while i’m typing this. (i stopped and made sure he was okay, don’t worry PETA) my dog’s name is Moose (hint; the blog title :)) and i’m not shitting you, that dog saved my life. since he saved my life from a downward spiral, i thought i should be a better human to him. (i.e.; take him for more walks or let him have my left over fries)…he’s pretty special. i have another puppy too, her name is Maddie. she’s our newest edition. she’s psychotic but i love that morkie to death.

4) Forgive
–gah, this is a hard one for me. it is so easy for me to be bitter. i will hold a grudge over someone taking my last cookie in the second grade (i still don’t follow her on any social media because of it)…that’s neither here nor there. forgive people for yourself, not for them. you can forgive someone and can still not have them in your life. it’s okay. “Forgiveness is not giving someone permission to have done the harm, it is rather recognizing the flawed humans we all are and accepting that a flawed person caused us harm.” forgiveness improves a multitude of things involving: mental state, heart rate, success rate, sleeping habits and tons more. i dunno but all those things are pretty important to me.

Those are just a few of the things i want to improve personally. But my point of it all is yes, it’s a New Year, but you should improve yourself daily. don’t get discouraged come March and you’ve been the the gym twice. i’m a firm believer that God doesn’t give us more than we can handle. So, you’re not improving at the pace you want? You could be improving at the pace God wants, and to me, that is far more amazing than something I can do on my own without him.

One thing that i have done so far and it’s not even the new year yet is start this blog! i write constantly, but this is something i plan on sharing with my family and friends (i still have a private blog for my delirious venting sessions that i want no one to ever read).

If you are reading this and don’t know what to change about your life or if you want to do something a little different daily, i encourage you to get ‘Life’s Little Instruction Book Calendar Volume XIX’…I haven’t had one since i was at college at TTU but it is seriously something so great to wake up to everyday. Some days are funny and some hit you when you need it. I just ordered mine from Amazon (it’s cheaper than a calendar store and i’m all about saving a dollar).

Photo on 12-29-14 at 6.47 PM

it’s backwards, I KNOW. and it’s already driving my ocd up a wall. i’ll try to post once a week. if anyone wants to comment or give me a topic to talk about but doesn’t have wordpress, follow me on IG and dm me! (ig; @brklynntrent)! see you in 2015!

XO,

B